Friday, November 14, 2008

Marriage

Love
My thoughts are all messed up about this. I need an explanation. I understand the majority-Christians look at love as between a man and a woman. Of course they also believe in the more common love; that of parents loving their children and “loving one's neighbor as yourself”. They also believe in the love of God. But they seem to set aside a different love for thier spouses. That’s the love I need an explanation for. I need to understand how that kind of love could not apply to Homosexuals such as myself. I am not a bad person, nor is my boyfriend. When I look in his eyes I say “wow I love you, just control your gas when we are around guests”. Who could say that isn’t love? Isn’t that special love just the ability to love someone for who and what they are, no matter what? For better or for worse, as some say. Do they think two men- or women- are physically incapable of this?

What is it they are thinking? Looking at the Christian Bible it clearly says “Love bears all things”. Are they saying this verse means nothing when dealing with men loving men or women loving women? Are they saying “love only bears the things we wish it too”?

Then there’s sex. Why are the majority-Christians so concerned with sex? Do they not know there is more to life and marriage than sex? Do they sit around and picture what others do in bed? Do they genuinely say to themselves “Gee I wonder what Sally and Fred are doing in the sack tonight? I do hope it's God approved.” I don’t think so. But it seems they do sit around and say “Gee I wonder what Sam and Fred are doing in bed. It’s probably not God approved.” Are they just big pervs? Really! Isn’t that some sort of sin of lust to try and picture others in bed? Not that I’m that against porn, but aren’t they against it?

I read an article recently about a pastor named Ed Yong of the Fellowship church in Dallas Texas. He is encouraging the married people of his church to have sex for 7 days to “re-claim sex and marriage”. Did they loose the sanctity of marriage somehow? Did the big gay monster come to thier church and take thier freedom of religion from them? So what is love to them? Is it only between a man and a woman? Is it just the sex they have? Who defines Love? Human kind? Is that it? Is it God? Cause if it is I would imagine love being a lot larger then just the act of sex.

Seriously though, if majority-Christians truly cared one smidge about marriage they would try to do something about divorce. You know the whole “remove the plank form your own eye before the attempt to get one out of your neighbors"?

Anyhoo, I will write a bit about myself in a later blog. I just wanted to get this out and hopefully get a few responses. Feel free to be angry or happy about what I say. All thoughts are welcome.William

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with what you have to say. Since homosexuals are born homosexual, and it is not something they choose to do, wouldn't that mean according to majority-Christians that God made you that way? Doesn't it seem a little odd that God would create beings with the nature and the NEED to be something he condems? I just dissaprove of the fire-and-brimstone attitude majority-Christians have. If God hates everything we are compelled by our vary nature to do, why would he make our nature to do those things? Just a thought.
Mary

Joni said...

Does "Sanctity" mean "exclusivity"? Does confining the "sacred" to a very narrow set of peramiters give it more or less value? What is the motive?

valot.com said...

The problem is not religion, as religions usually adapt to the social mores. The problem is sexism, or rather "genderism".

The US is still struggling with an overtly macho culture, where gender roles are very strict and strongly enforced. Men simply can't cry, have "weak" feelings, or express themselves. Any sign of exploration of one's feminine side is instantly and forcibly repressed by the peer group. Gays are thus made into the boogeymen of a society that hangs on to strong gender roles for men, because it is afraid of maturity, afraid of weakness, afraid of feeling.

It (maybe) made more sense when this was a wild frontier, where toughness was necessary for survival, and the weak were preyed upon. But it's horribly self-defeating now.

Women have fought for the freedom to individually choose their gender role. It's time we stood up to the other side of sexism, the one that imprisons straight men into the most narrow definition of masculinity.

Men who have been taught to forcibly repress every aspect of their feminine side will always be at best uncomfortable, at worst hostile, around those who are (not without struggle or suffering) more in touch with themselves.

I'll tell you this: I don't care in the least what my son's sexual orientation will be. It won't bother me in the least if he plays with dolls. I won't be focusing my praise on his strength or his ability to hold back his tears. I won't be pushing him into football, and I won't tolerate violent behavior from him any more than I do from my daughter.

Most parents I know feel the same. Homophobia will be as ridiculous and outdated to our kids as racism is to us. America has conquered racial prejudice faster than anybody hoped. Know that the new generations are already on your side, and don't fret about the vociferous bigots. They're old. They'll die off soon.

Mechelle said...

Thought-prevoking message, William. What your blog called to mind for me was that there are as many ways to love in this world as there are people, animal and things to love. I'm not God, (not today, anyway)but if I was I'd be in favor of all the flavors, all the tastes of the remarkable emotion we call love.
Mechelle

Susan said...

Thanks, William, for sharing your thoughts so openly and from the heart. I think too many Christians are biblical literalists and forget that the Bible was written by (relatively primitive) human beings, many of whom feared what they didn't understand. God is much bigger than a Book. Please keep speaking up--and out. Just because the (numerical) majority were born heterosexual doesn't mean they own the exclusive rights to love. All true love is legitimate, divinely-inspired love.

Ben said...

I just have one thing to say about this. I've always grown up being taught that once you truly find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with you get married. For me to have found that person and to be told that, NO I can't marry him because of a few stupid ignorant people. It just boggles my mind that something like this is happening in this day and age. When will our country learn? How many more groups of people are we going to repress before we get a clue? In reference to what you were saying about religion and this issue. I don't blame religion. I blame the sick disgusting people who use religion as a tool to spread hate and misunderstanding. There is still hope though, and we will keep fighting until we do get our rights. Lets just hope that this is the last time our country goes through this mess.